If you ask me what the first step to getting your life together is, I will unwaveringly tell you that everything starts with leaning into and working toward healing. If you just groaned, trust me, you aren’t alone. The minute I utter the word “healing”, a large majority of people shut down. Why? Because it requires work, challenging, sometimes grueling work. There’s risk involved. It can change and even break relationships. Ultimately, it demands us to risk feeling—which if you just say “feel” or even “heal”—one could argue those are four-letter words.

As the last day of 2020 has arrived, many find themselves in the place of balancing the past, what has been, and the future, what will be or has yet to come. Many desire a new spark within that balancing spirit. Honestly, that desire occurs anytime there is a significant change, yet, as 2021 welcomes us into its fold, many are standing, waiting anxiously to see what is next. Naturally, the unknown has created great chatter that centers on nervousness and questions. I get it.

Admittedly, I’m a goal-oriented person, but even being goal-oriented does not equal immediate success.

As we move through December and look toward rounding out the year that is 2020, it’s important we begin directing our thoughts toward what we want to leave behind and what we want to create in the year ahead. Global pandemic or not, remember, our outside circumstances do not have to determine how we show up. Now is definitely the time to up our overall life strategy, thus the need to create goals.

If I tossed out words like resilient, confident, balanced, conscience, owning your voice, a balanced thinker, do you see yourself in those words? Do you identify those strengths as attributes in your life? If so, you are the definition of mentally strong. Go ahead and pat yourself on the back. Seriously, look at you having your life together…

Wait.

Raise your hand if your mind has ever spiraled out of control?

Raise your hand if you’ve experienced anxiety, stress, or restlessness?

Is your hand down? Really?! Lucky you! Listen, if you want to keep reading about a tried and true method to untangle your mind, release negative feelings, and get to know yourself better, I won’t tell anyone. Seriously, I won’t.

When you begin to focus on your growth, you tend to run headlong into tons of jargon. Self-growth, personal development, mindfulness, affirmations, intentions, self-care, self-love, self-acceptance…I could go on for days, but I won’t. You get it; the journey to becoming your best self is filled with an abundance of terms and concepts. You’ve heard me mention all of the above if you have watched any of my Get Your Life Together Monday Lives on Instagram.