Growth and self-love are not mutually exclusive. Loving yourself takes effort, exploration, release, healing, and understanding there’s more to self-love than self-care. And, while the effort to promote self-love has become a hot topic across the internet and social media, there’s also been a push to define and push self-love in a way that absolutely does not support your mental and emotional health.

Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what self-love is NOT! It’s important to understand both sides of the coin so you can best serve yourself in the long run.

So, let’s dive right in.

Key Takeaways:

00:00 Introduction  

01:25 A baseline understanding of what self-love is

03:29 3 foundations to self-love  

06:29 Love is always conditional  

08:17 Other elements of self-love that must be present in our lives

13:10 Toxic self-love #1: Using self-love to hurt others

15:29 Toxic self-love #2: Disconnecting from quality relationships

17:54 Toxic self-love #3: Putting the lens of positivity on everything

20:10 Toxic self-love #4: Excusing our behavior and calling it self-love 

22:21 Toxic self-love #5: Selfishness 

25:49 Toxic self-love #6: When we put excuses in the way of self-work        

28:54 Toxic self-love #7: Refusing to validate feelings when they don’t align with our own

31:13 Toxic self-love #8: Refusing to care about others or anything

32:49 Toxic self-love #9: It is not about pushing yourself to be more

34:55 Toxic self-love #10: It is not one area of focus while ignoring everything else

36:26 Toxic self-love #11: Refusing real life

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