A massive part of our overall life satisfaction comes down to the quality of our relationships, especially our most intimate ones. So often, women find themselves dissatisfied, overwhelmed, and feeling as if their partner does not meet their needs. When this occurs, life can feel as if it is lacking in passion, purpose, play, and genuine connection.

This week we’re taking our intimate relationships to increase our overall satisfaction in and out of the bedroom with Relationships Expert and Love Coach Gaby Sundra.

When we lack passion, intimacy, and relationship goals, our mindset and personal drive can become stunted. This is an adult-only conversation just due to its nature, but it’s filled with tips and tools to uplevel your relationship play, enjoyment, and connection. As Gaby says, “We’re keeping the fights clean and the sex dirty!”

Key Takeaways:

00:00 Introduction

01:48 Gaby is the Love Trifecta Coach—meeting each other’s needs in our love relationship

03:19 OCC: The elements of blaming, complaining, and shaming

04:44 How a reset summit can serve your relationship & the words, “Did I show up for you today?”

07:11 Loving by design and not default

09:35 The Love Trifecta: play, peace, and passion

12:12 The number one mistake we make is putting our relationship on autopilot or on the backburner

13:36 Intimacy is key to any relationship, and it goes beyond sex

16:17 Get to know your partner’s love language and honoring the space, word, and needs of your beloved

19:11 What was present at the beginning that is missing now?

20:21 We must model intimacy

24:09 Taking the negativity off the table and putting goals in place for our couple’s culture to thrive

27:35 We cannot make others accountable for our happiness and self-ownership

29:00 Marriage generally ends because of a million small things, not the big – removing the negativity

32:41 Know your partner’s fight and communication styles so you can be in alignment with one another – consent is key

34:00 Allowing the “so-so” moments

37:32 Caring about your beloved needs but not giving up your own needs

41:41 Intentionality in relationships is necessary

44:31 Upset is often a need that is not becoming met or communicated correctly

46:43 Take time to have a needs meeting to help you make sure both people are meeting their personal needs—this is a massive piece of trust

49:15 Keeping the romance alive removes the “roommate” vibe that many marriages survive within

52:44 Small shifts create significant changes—start with creating a vision for your relationship

54:54 Needs are not demands

56:40 What to do right NOW that will help increase your enjoyment

58:00 Uncovering Your Love Language

59:21 Gaby’s three things

Relationships don’t have to be so much work. They can be pure empowerment when we add the trifecta that Gaby so beautifully taught alongside the other tools that make loving fun. 

You don’t want to miss the free offerings Gaby mentioned. Again, you can find the free downloads at www.forbetter.love/girl  

If you would like to work with Gaby and rekindle your relationship you can find information at www.forbetter.love/meet.

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